How-to: Steps to Making Your New Year Resolution Stick
You knew it was coming. Even though you’ve said to yourself that you are not making a New Year resolution this year there is still a little part of you that wants to make one. Or there’s a part of you that is saying that you’re not making a resolution yet you still are feeling “some type of way” about it. That’s because deep down inside you want to make a resolution but you don’t want to make a resolution and not follow through with it again. Wheww…that was a mouthful…So what do you do? Make a resolution but this time outline the smaller steps in between the resolution and define them with paper and pen or screen and stylus.
1. Make sure the goal you are working for is something you really want, not just something that sounds good.
I remember when I started thinking about losing weight. I started taking my health more seriously. I began to set my sites on teaching in the fitness industry again well before I had reached my fitness goals. Why? I knew there was no way I could own my own fitness company without losing weight first, so the next best thing was to become an instructor again and renew my nutrition certifications, pretty cool, right? Wrong.
Sure, when I was talking to people about my goals it sounded pretty good, and many people where quite impressed. Fortunately I began to see through my own charade.
I have been involved in the health and wellness industry for a long time. I’ve coached, marketed and advanced in the wellness industry for years. I’ve been a leader in the industry and had helped many people lose weight. A lot of weight. But what I began to see was I had a strong desire but I did not have a plan to follow to help me carry out one of my strongest desires. Lose weight, get healthy, get moving, avoid prescription drugs. and implement my business plan.
When setting goals it is very important to remember that your goals must be consistent with your values.
2. A goal cannot contradict any of your other goals.
For example, you can’t lose a 100 lbs. if your goal is to map out and try all the new restaurants in the city this year. This is called non-integrated thinking and will sabotage all of the hard work you put into your goals. Non-integrated thinking can also hamper your everyday thoughts as well. We should continually strive to eliminate contradictory ideas from our thinking.
3. Develop goals in the 6 areas of life:
Family and Home
Financial and Career
Spiritual and Ethical
Physical and Health
Social and Cultural
Mental and Educational
Setting goals in each area of life will ensure a more balanced life as you begin to examine and change the fundamentals of everyday living. Setting goals in each area of life also helps in eliminating the non-integrated thinking we talked about in the 2nd step.
4. Write your goal in the positive instead of the negative.
Work for what you want, not for what you want to leave behind. Part of the reason why we write down and examine our goals is to create a set of instructions for our subconscious mind to carry out. Your subconscious mind is a very efficient tool, it cannot determine right from wrong and it does not judge. Your subconscious mid does not know the difference between a lie and the truth. It’s only function is to carry out its instructions. The more positive instructions you give it, the more positive results you will get. When you hear negative thoughts seeping in sit still and say to yourself. Yes. Yes, I can. Clear your mind and breathe. Focus on your breath and how it sounds. Connect with authentic self.
Thinking positively in everyday life will also help in your growth as a human being. Don’t limit it to goal setting.
5. Write your goal out in complete detail.
Instead of writing ” a size 8″ write, I am wearing a size 8. I am running, jumping and playing with my child. I can bend over and tie my shoes with ease. I am no longer taking prescriptions medicines. I am able to shop on the skinny side of the store.
Some years ago I was the owner of a very successful marketing company. I still own it but have since then out my time into my passion which is fitness. During this time in the marketing industry I worked with a great team of as a team we would meet and share ideas, network and learn from each other. I would hold weekly meetings and often we would practice vision exercises where we would each meditate, clear our minds and envision our future selves in the position or living the life we desire to live. These were very powerful exercises. We would envision every detail and write it down on paper. Each person would be given the chance to read their vision and share it with the group. One of the most powerful things about this exercise is that as the years passed we would do this same exercise with new partners. We would then read our old vision statements and it was very powerful because the more senior members would read their old vision statements and they had already been realized. Their visions had already come true.
Once again we are giving the subconscious mind a detailed set of instructions to work on. The more information you give it, the more clearer the final outcome becomes. The more precise the outcome, the more efficient the subconscious mind can become.
Can you close your eyes and visualize the home I described above? Walk around the house. Stand on the porch off the master bedroom and see the fog lifting off the mountain. Look down at the garden full of tomatoes, green beans and cucumbers. And off to the right is the other garden full of a mums, carnations and roses. Can you see it? So can your subconscious mind.
6. By all means, make sure your goal is high enough.
Shoot for the moon, if you miss you’ll still be in the stars. Earlier I talked about my fitness business goals and how making it to own my own fitness company did not mix with my values. Some of you might be saying that I’m not setting my goals high enough. Not so. I still had very high goals for my fitness career at that level. My ultimate goal is to own a weight loss boot camp that can facilitate 100’s of clients with an Olympic size swimming pool and be able to service several communities and nationally. If I never make it, everything I do to reach that goal will make me a better trainer and a better person. If I make it, but don’t go national, then I am still among the top weight loss boot camps in the nation. Shoot for the moon!
7. This is the most important, write down your goals.
Writing down your goals creates the roadmap to your success. Although just the act of writing them down can set the process in motion, it is also extremely important to review your goals frequently. Remember, the more focused you are on your goals the more likely you are to accomplish them.
Sometimes we realize we have to revise a goal as circumstances and other goals change. If you need to change a goal do not consider it a failure, consider it a victory as you had the insight to realize something was different.
So your goals are written down.
First of all, unless someone is critical to helping you achieve your goal(s), do not freely share your goals with others. The negative attitude from friends, family and neighbors can drag you down quickly. It’s very important that your self-talk (the thoughts in your head) are positive. It’s also a good idea to partner with like-minded people. Even better than that partner with a person who has he same goal. If it’s weight loss you desire than partner with someone who is also motivated to lose weight. You’ll be able to spur each other on, celebrate successes and reach smaller goals together.
Reviewing your goals daily is a crucial part of your success and must become part of your routine. Each morning when you wake up read your list of goals that are written in the positive. Visualize the completed goal, see the new home, smell the leather seats in your new car, visualize the little black dress, feel the cold hard cash in your hands. Then each night, right before you go to bed, repeat the process. This process will start both your subconscious and conscious mind on working towards the goal. This will also begin to replace any of the negative self-talk you may have and replace it with positive self-talk.
Every time you make a decision during the day, ask yourself this question, “Does it take me closer to, or further from my goal.” If the answer is “closer to,” then you’ve made the right decision. If the answer is “further from,” well, you know what to do.
If you follow this process every day you will be on your way to achieving unlimited success in every aspect of your life.